Missing You

Ever miss an inanimate object?

I do … all the time.

 

I’ve been missing you.

No, not you.

You. The blog.

 

You used to be my escape. My tabula rasa, if you will.

I could throw thoughts and ideas at you to see if they would stick.

 

They say you’re an extrovert if you bring thought to word to see if it remains sound when it’s out.

I guess I’m really an extrovert.

 

So, here I am again … seeing if my stream of consciousness adheres to this post.

 

Sometimes, when I write or speak, that’s when I realize something is not how I actually feel.

For example, the other day, my little pup did something so unnerving – so gross – that I’ll spare you the details.

I gasped for air, which was medically necessary given the circumstance, and uttered, “Ugh, you’re so annoying.”

I stopped in my tracks.

No. She’s not annoying.

She’s actually quite sweet and keeps to herself most of the time.

She’s young. That’s what I meant to say.

It didn’t stick.

 

Other times, the words that are formed sound more real – and eloquent – than the thoughts that I initially had in my head.

It’s as if speaking them brought them to life and allowed them to grow.

 

One of those times was today – moments ago, in fact – when I was so perturbed at the last few weeks that I finally sat down and began writing.

 

The last few weeks for me have been hard. And when I think I’m about to catch a break, something or someone pops back in for a quick ‘hello’ and I scratch my head {while wiping the pitied tears} wondering … why?

I know you’ve experienced this before.

No, not you, the blog. You, the reader.

That’s universalism. We can all relate to the same themes in life.

 

But, I learned something tonight.

And as rudimentary as it may sound, it was quite profound to this little soul of mine, so I’ll share.

 

  • Because people are going to hurt you or us (let’s make it an “us” so that we can bear one another’s burdens together), we must remember that we always have two opposing response-choices.
  • This means that as powerless as we may feel, we are actually always in control.

 

My dad used to tell me that life is easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got. {I think he stole that from someone, but the theft was definitely worth the knowledge.}

Today, I choose grace.

Tomorrow, I choose to be kinder than I feel {because, honestly, there isn’t enough of that in this world}.

And from now on, I will view adversity as an opportunity to provide me with more choices rather than as a robber of my joy.

Two Ways to Know They’re “The One”

How cliche was that title?

But it got your attention – woop!

And that’s because everyone loves a list.

If we can find a bulleted way to live our lives, we’ll do it…because it gives us results, quickly.

And if you’re anything like me, you’re likely skipping this part of the post and scurrying straight to the outlined points to get there even faster. But in case you’re not … heeey, I like your thorough style and wish I was more like you.

So, cutting to the chase …

This isn’t your ordinary

  • Look for someone who’s your best friend.
  • Find someone you can laugh with.
  • Be with someone who’s kind to others.

list.

No.

Because lots of people can become your best friend, you can laugh with a ton of different people, and – thankfully – this world can be a pretty kind place.

So, here’s my personal way of finding “the one” amidst those other incredible people:

  1. Examine the way that you wish for things for them. Perhaps look at the way that you pray for them. Have you ever hoped that someone would have a good day so that they would be extra sweet to you later on {perhaps they’re kinda grouchy when they have a busy or bad day and you dread having to deal with that}? Or, on the contrary, have you ever prayed that they would have a good day because you thought they truly deserved it? Because they are the kindest, most generous {insert superlative} person you know? I like that.
  2. Identify whether you think there should be more of them in the world. It might be fun having kids with certain people {I can name several people for whom this may be true}, but do you think they should be replicated in order to make the world a better place? Would you love for your son or daughter to {one day} date someone just like this person {because they treat you and others so well}?

You pickin’ up what I’m throwin’ down?

Well, that’s it, folks!

That’s how I think I’ve found the one.

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Food Sleight

Remember when you were a kid…

And your parents had to trick you into eating vegetables and other healthy foods?

Peas were flown on airplanes and celery was dressed as ant-infested logs.

It’s no wonder parents utilize this tool … it works.

And truth be told, I still play this deception game … with myself.

Pretty regularly, in order to trick myself into combating my soda addiction, I guzzle iced water through a disposable cup and straw. It helps if it’s housed in a fast food container.

But … life just got better.

I’ve recently come across the latest invention in food sleight.

They call it, Yonana.

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Imagine being able to turn your frozen fruits and veggies into magical creations that have the consistency of sorbet or froyo without adding anything else to them.

Then boom … there you have it.

There’s nothing bad in it.

  • No added sugar.
  • No dairy.
  • But if you want to get sassy, you can add frozen chocolate to the mix, or drizzle honey/granola/whatevs on top. (Honey is my favorite. Just like smiling.)

And the best part … you just push the fruits/veggies into the machine … that’s it!

You’re welcome.

http://shop.yonanas.com/products/yonanas-classic

 

My Thoughts on Easter

When I was 8 years old, I started going to church.

…On my own.

I used to ride my bike down the alley beside my house to sit outside of the same Methodist church where my piano recitals were held so that I could hear the pastor’s messages reverberate off of the walls.

My parents didn’t go to church.

I never knew anything about the Bible.

But something always drew me to that place.

And it was likely because of the story of Easter.

When I first heard about a man who loved me – like, really loved me – despite my shortcomings, I felt … at home.

Something about that love – as crazy as it is – always made sense to me.

Think: The tradition of Easter has evolved into parents purchasing gifts for their children without gaining any recognition for them {they blame the gifts on a bunny’s generosity}. That’s what love is …  without receiving any credit – or anything in return – a parent provides.

So, like that, Jesus wasn’t hard for me to comprehend.

But, in examining other religions, I realized I wasn’t good enough for them.

And nothing felt as genuine as the story I heard while sitting outside of that church during those years.

I couldn’t grasp being the daughter of Something that didn’t want me the way I was created – that constantly asked things of me.

So, I stuck with the notion of Jesus.

Sometimes, I was questioned for having beliefs that didn’t seem valid. And no matter how much logic I could attach to this soul-connection that I felt, those questions from others still remained.

Sure, although the New Testament was written in first century A.D. (more recent than other manuscripts), and there are some 20,000 manuscripts in existence (thousands more than any other ancient writing) with the internal consistency of the documents at about 99.5% and the earliest textual evidence having been copied only 100 years after the original, that wasn’t always enough “proof.”

Yet, manuscripts like Caesar’s Gallic Wars and Aristotle’s Poetics were written B.C., not even A.D., each having 10 or less manuscripts (Aristotle had 5!), and the earliest textual evidence for both was over 1,000 years after the original.

I’ve struggled to understand why my logic was sometimes considered illogical when many of us quote Aristotle’s manuscripts.

But, I think it’s because Jesus seems too good to be true.

Because his love is too good.

But just because it’s too good – just because a parent providing gifts for his or her children without wanting anything in return is too good – doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist.

And because of that, today will always remain my favorite holiday.

Easter is love with skin on.

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Things I Wish I Had Known

First, it started with cancer.

Then, the elevated thyroid.

And back, again, to cancer.

 

It seemed like I couldn’t catch a break … so I took a break.

I ended my relationship with my skincare routine because I was getting melanoma time and time again in places where the sun doesn’t always shine.

I wondered if it was possible that I could get cancer and then disrupt my endocrine system (i.e., hormone levels) with what I was putting on my skin.

The answer still remains unknown, but I do know this…

 

I started using Beautycounter – a skincare {face and body} and makeup line that I searched diligently for in the hopes that there was something better than what Whole Foods was offering.

Here’s the website: http://www.beautycounter.com/christieschroeder/.

And my thyroid levels are back to “normal.”

 

Since the answers to my diagnoses remain in the dark, here are the facts:

  • Over 60% of what we put on our skin is absorbed by our skin {our body’s largest organ}.
  • Decades of studies indicate that serious health issues are on the rise and due, in part, to exposure to toxic chemicals.
  • Roughly 10% of the 10,000 chemicals commonly found in personal care products have safety data. {I’m no Math wizard, but that leaves us with nearly 9,000 chemicals with no information on their safety.}
  • The FDA allows companies to use extremely harmful products (e.g., lead, formaldehyde … what?) that have been linked to cancer, infertility, learning and developmental disabilities, and hormone disruption.
  • And the U.S. … it hasn’t passed a law since 1938 regulating the cosmetic industry, and when they did, only 11 ingredients were banned or restricted … FYI: The European Union has banned 1,400.

 

Don’t think you’ll get cancer?

Neither did I.

But in the U.S. alone, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 2 men will develop cancer at some point in their lifetime. And … childhood cancers have increased 20% since 1975.

 

Oh yea … and autism, ADHD, asthma, and allergies are all on the rise in the U.S.

In fact, learning and developmental disabilities affect more than 1 in 6 children in the U.S.

And the National Academy of Sciences has determined that environmental factors contribute to 28% of developmental disorders in children.

 

Finally {but not really finally}, difficulty conceiving and maintaining a pregnancy affected 40% more women in 2002 than it did in 1982.

But for those fortunate enough to conceive, more than 200 chemicals {many known to be toxic} can be found in nearly all Americans, including newborns who are exposed to chemicals in utero.

And today, girls are entering puberty earlier than a generation ago – in part, due to exposures to endocrine disruptors. Note: Early puberty puts girls at a higher risk for breast cancer later in life.

 

Yikes.

 

Trust me … I know.

This was all terrifying to me, too.

 

But the good news is … there’s a non-profit organization called EWG Skin Deep that is educating people on the safety of personal care products. {http://www.ewg.org/skindeep/}

They offer a free app where you can find safety ratings for nearly 80,000 products with ingredients largely unregulated by the federal government.

 

And Beautycounter is  on a mission to integrate safety with performance, only offering products ranked a 1 or a 2 with EWG Skin Deep {and the prices are in line with what’s at Sephora}.

Beautycounter has banned more than 1,500 ingredients {the strictest standard in this country} and has worked side-by-side with A-list celebrity makeup artist, Christy Coleman, to ensure its quality.

{I suppose the company’s mission is working…}

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And guess what … they even have a baby and kids’ line, along with sunscreen, etc.

I’m obsessed with the products and I’m the girl who can look at something wrong and get a break-out. {And the girl who used to spend an obscene amount of money on La Mer and La Prairie.}

 

If you’d like to learn more about Beautycounter, the products, or how to join the mission, please reach out on Facebook or via email: christieschroederbc@gmail.com.

Here’s a 3-minute video to take a peek at, too, in case you’re {kind of} in love already: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZfV91Ybmnc&feature=share.

 

Stay tuned for more about fashion – or love – in the next post!

xxo,

Christie

athleisure

athleisure :: athletic + leisure

noun

a trend in fashion in which clothing that is designed for athletic workouts is worn outside of the gym.

We’ve all seen athleisure in action:

Girl goes to the grocery store in her yoga pants and tank top.

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Boom … athleisure.

It wasn’t until the other day, though, that I realized how incredible this concept was outside of this cliche scenario, and what it could mean for my pocketbook.

The other night, Brett and I went to a comedy show that started at 8:00 pm. I accidentally woke from a nap at 7:09 pm. This meant that I had roughly 21 minutes to get ready so that we could grab our uber and be seated in time without getting heckled.

Because I was hurried and in a drunken-like, sleepy haze, I didn’t reach for my black, go-to ponte pants for when I go out – or for when I do anything remotely worthy of slinking myself into tight clothing that cuts off my circulation.

{Don’t know what ponte pants are? http://lmgtfy.com/}

Instead, I threw on heels, a lightweight jacket, and a summer scarf on top of my all-black yoga pants and scoop-neck, pima cotton top that I was already wearing for the duration of my nap.

And … it looked pretty good. {I think.}

If we hybrid the following two outfits {we’ll pretend that those in the first photograph are “yoga” pants}, paired with both of their bodies, that’s what I looked like.

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It had never occurred to me to wear activewear to go out in. I had only ever sported (no pun intended) athleisure for errand-runs or casual outings.

So now, the days of having to buy skinny, black pants and clothing of the like are gone. I will be coupling my already-existing activewear with heels, wedges, and jewelry.

And I’ll post some pics of my outfits on here when I think something of the athlesiure nature looks awesome … or moderately awesome.

Please refer to my sweet girlfriend’s blog for more tips on athleisure and fashion:

http://www.theweekenderafashionfieldguide.com/blog/athleisure-layers

xo,

C

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favorite word, restaurant & boy.

One word: gusto!

noun
enjoyment or vigor in doing something

synonyms: enthusiasm, zest, delight, glee, satisfaction, appreciation, liking

Isn’t that word great?

That’s where Brett and I met.

Not only is it one of my favorite words, it happens to be one of our favorite restaurants.

 

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The best dish is on the far right, second row.
Atlanta folks, you’re missing out {on life} if you haven’t been yet:
gusto!
1935 Peachtree Rd NE
Atlanta, GA 30309

 

So, it started as a glance.
Followed by silence.

 

Yes.
Silence.

 

Brett and I looked at one another and didn’t say a word.

So, how did we “meet” there?

Well, I guess we technically didn’t.

 

He ate his dinner, alone.
I ate mine with my girlfriend, at a different table.
And the manager – named Boston – joined my girlfriend and I in conversation {he’s my frand}.

 

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Picture taken that same day.
So, what you don’t know is that Brett happens to eat at gusto! … a lot.
Usually once a day, sometimes twice.

 

This time, he made it twice.

In order to come back and leave this note for Boston to give to me.

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Being a girl, I told Boston I wasn’t going to initiate the conversation.
So, I gave him permission to pass my number along to Brett.

 

Which was followed by this..

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Oh.

That’s what being a man looks like.
Allowing my girlfriend and I to have “our” time.
And being direct and reaching out.

 

So … the rest is history.

These are the flowers that changed everything.

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Well, not really the flowers.

The “I’m not going anywhere if you still have cancer” that changed everything, accompanied by the flowers.

And this is the boy that changed me.

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Happy Sunday, y’all!

I’ll see you next time with some fashion or beauty.

 

xo,
C

Hello, it’s me.

I went on a writing hiatus from my dating blog.

I hope you still remember me!

In a nutshell, here’s what you missed:

 

I got a massage {you read that right}.

Where a therapist found a pink lesion {who knew they showed up in various colors?} on my back.

 

I had it biopsied {ouch}.

And learned that it was melanoma, stage 3.

I thought, “No big deal … it’s just skin cancer.”

And soon came to the understanding that it’s kind of a big deal {any amount of research could have told me that}.

 

After a scan..

We realized that it had spread its quick, little way around my body {sneaky little bugger}.

So, I went through treatment.

remission

And in my last month, right before I went into remission, I met a boy {stay tuned for the story}.

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But … it came back.

Waah.

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And now … here I am.

In love and finding health.

 

I’ve learned a lot.

Mostly about what’s good for our bodies … and skin {something I’m particularly passionate about now}.

And I’ve come to shocking realizations about what’s regulated – and not regulated – in the U.S.

 

In this blog, you’ll find excerpts about what I’ve learned with a lil’ fashion – and dating – mixed in.

 

I hope you enjoy and will be in touch!

xo,

Christie